That's Deep Bro

In this episode I get deeper into codependency and control - all the fun stuff like what if you don't have to react to things right away? How obsessing never helps and boundaries in general are good things. Reading a book about it called "Codependency No More". Also, my latest analysis of Molly Sims' Youtube page - FYI she's way better at Momming than I am.  Who the fuck is updating their "story" on Instagram constantly?! More lessons from social media. I answer an emailer who wants to hang with her ex - should she? Another lady is depressed despite keeping a structured daily routine - should she take anti-depressants? My first emailer from Manila writes in about how to get her life in the Philippines. 

This episode I discuss the good, bad and ugly people who come into your life. What can we learn from all of them? Also, talkin' about practice - Malcom Gladwell's 10,000 hours of it. Dostoevsky's Inertia and why the self help movement will make you crazy. How Feminism and any "ism" can create a victim mentality. An emailer writes in asking how she can accept help from others after growing up in a home where love was conditional. Boundaries - what are they and how to maintain them! Your life will get soooo gotten after this one. 

This week I explore codependency. I've always thought it was a thing only Alcoholics dealt with, but it's so much more! 15 Signs you may be a codependent (a list I found on the internet). Samantha writes in asking for advice - her internship is killing her and her relationship. What should she do? A depressed college student doesn't know how to ask for help. We get our lives on this episode in a very deep way, bros! 

I bought a pair of ankle socks after a lifetime of suffering sockless in Vans. It lead to an epiphany of how much we let ourselves have the "good stuff" - socks, friendship, leisure time, love, money, success, health - all of it. What separates those who believe they deserve the good stuff from the rest of us? The Great British Baking show again reveals powerful Buddhist lessons. An emailer writes in saying he's lost 90 pounds, but why does he still feel crappy inside? A newly single man writes in for dating advice. A 22 year-old boo boo millennial is filled with anxiety about what her next step should be! How can we all GET OUR LIVES!?!?! I will show you! xoxo 

This episode I sneak off to record as my in-laws visit. How do we know if we are upset about something that happened today vs something that happened ages ago? Something tells me staying up all night obsessing over it is an indicator...We saw a lady with enormous hangers at dinner. Should she wear a bra????? Am I a sexist pig for demanding it? I answer emails - how do you know you've found the right therapist? How does one deal with anxiety? Should I send my kid to Catholic School even though I'm not Catholic? All this and more, GET YOUR LIFE!

This week I reflect on Paul Gilmartin's podcast, Mental Illness Happy Hour Episode 330. He has a therapist on and they discuss co-dependency and the importance of feelings. How do parents mess you up by not letting you have feelings? You're about to find out! Also how do you learn to have feelings after you've spent years accommodating others? Could this be the importance of therapy? How we see reality thru our own perception goggles and living in the past vs now.  I answer emails from a woman who wonders if she has to teach her kid to swim even though he's terrified of water. A woman is in a sexless relationship. Jena calls in and we discuss her Mormon upbringing and how she escaped! 

This week during a romantic getaway with the husband, I had a pretty mind-blowing epiphany. I discuss why the idea of  closure is total 1980's bullshit psychology. Why the show Better Call Saul is really about embracing your inner piece of shit. Each week I get countless emails from Millennials who struggle with inter-personal communication. It's no wonder why - your parents have raised you to be terrified of everything.  You've been over-parented into feeling hopeless about making friends. This episode I'll teach you how to talk to strangers. Also, I discuss my own emetephobia (fear of vomiting). This episode has so much deepness, I could barf! J/K NEVER!!

How is Rick Ross tied to Marxism? You're about to find out! Also self care. It's a phrase my therapist has used over the years and in this episode I let you in on what I think it means. An emailer writes in about a potential stalker, how should she dump him? Also how does an attractive 23 year-old girl find a date when dudes don't approach her in public? A woman emails  asking if her boyfriend is being a controlling jerk (answer: yes). I reiterate the ways you know you have a toxic parent and in this episode we find out how to deal with them.

Poor in friends, ladies and money....The isolation of cars and social media.  How the hell do people date in this era of dating apps? How do Millennials make friends? Update from my Next Door App - what are my neighbors concerned with this week? Has to do with a homeless man and his "undercarriage" living behind the bank. My history with seeing homeless men's penises in public. The heartbreak of a broken iPhone screen and the horrors of the Apple store. A young gentleman writes in asking why he gets "friend zoned" with the ladies. Also, "why do people love free stuff so much?" asks another guy. Poverty consciousness and getting over that shit so you can have a great life. 

I watched 13 Reasons Why and loved it almost as much as my beloved BH90210.  High school sucks donkey dicks and in this episode I uncover why. The compelling reasons to attend college (to become interesting and drink Zima). My favorite new British Baking Show contestant and the deepness of her victory. It's not just about avoiding a soggy bottom! Why you can't necessarily DO everything. I mean you can, just not perfectly. How do we make peace with doing things imperfectly. Also, what are our limits and who defines them? A 34 year-old single woman writes in feeling the panic of her biological clock ticking away. She's newly single and wants to find her forever jeans! The horrors of modern-day dating. A Mormon girl writes in and asks how she can get over her competitiveness. She hates games! It may have something to do with approval seeking...and the good opinion of others...The book I recommend is by Wayne Dyer, Your Erroneous Zones.