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Jordan Harbinger and The Art of Charm Team (Produced by Jason DeFillippo)


Podcast Overview

Social science, behavioral economics, cognitive psychology -- sound complex? Let's fix that.

The Art of Charm Podcast is where self-motivated guys and gals, just like you, come to learn from a diverse mix of experienced mentors, including the world's best professional and academic minds, scientists, innovators, coaches, relationship experts, entrepreneurs, bestselling authors, and other brilliant minds. This show will make you a higher performer, a better networker, a deeper connector and, most importantly, a better thinker.

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AoC is where ordinary people become extraordinary. Find more at: http://www.theartofcharm.com/

Podcast Episodes

Fan Mail Friday #123 | I Hate My Boss

Liz Dolan (@SSLiz) and Larry Seal (@IHateMyBossShow) from the I Hate My Boss podcast join us for this Fan Mail Friday to answer your work and career-related questions, so let's cut to it! In this episode:

  • Company loyalty vs. personal goals when a change in ownership is pending.
  • Have you outgrown your "negaholic" friends at work when they're always complaining about the job you love?
  • Hey, ambitious but unfulfilled intern! Should you stay or should you go?
  • How do you reasonably cope with an unmotivated boss with divided attention -- when that boss is your dad and his attention is divided by family medical issues?
  • What can you do to "forget" your nerves and be confident around your boss? (Warning: advice may vary depending on the business culture of your country.)
  • It's tough being at a small company you really like when you have to report to a "leader" who doesn't take their role seriously. What are your options?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
  • Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf123/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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634: Christian Picciolini | Life After Hate

Christian Picciolini (@cpicciolini) is an Emmy Award-winning television producer, reformed extremist, co-founder of peace nonprofit Life After Hate, and author of Romantic Violence: Memoirs of an American Skinhead.

"Hatred is born of ignorance. Fear is its father, and isolation is its mother." -Christian Picciolini

The Cheat Sheet:
  • How the marketing of extremism has evolved to become more palatable to the masses.
  • How identity, community, and purpose drive extremism -- not ideology.
  • Why extremism and race identity are popular with youth now more than ever before.
  • What we can do if we know someone involved with -- or thinking of becoming involved with -- an extremist group.
  • How an ex neo-Nazi skinhead became a uniquely qualified peace advocate to help others avoid walking in his footsteps.
  • And so much more...

Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/634/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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633: Jack Barsky | Deep Undercover Pt. 1

Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part one of a two-part episode; stay tuned for the second installment next Monday!

"The only advice I can give young people is the following: 'It always takes longer, and it always costs more.'" -Jack Barsky

The Cheat Sheet:
  • What Jack Barsky's childhood was like in postwar East Germany.
  • The stickiness of Soviet-style communist ideology and how it appealed to young people on Jack's side of the Iron Curtain.
  • How spies were recruited and trained during the Cold War.
  • What skills Jack used to assimilate seamlessly into American culture.
  • Why caution is a spy's best friend; paranoia is his enemy.
  • And so much more...

Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/633/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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Minisode Monday #61 | Acknowledging vs. Suppressing Emotions

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away.

Are there any benefits to suppressing emotions vs. acknowledging them? Here's an exercise to ensure you're doing the right thing. Many thanks to recent guest and How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain author Lisa Feldman Barrett (hear her full show here) for helping put this one together!

The Cheat Sheet:
  • Suppressing emotions is like putting a bandage over an infected wound -- it's only putting unpleasantness out of sight, not healing it.
  • Even if it makes you feel silly, you need to acknowledge the true set of emotions you're having in order to process and move on.
  • One way to do this is to write down your emotions. Are you hurting? Ashamed? Jotting it all down and noting how comfortable or uncomfortable these emotions make you feel forces you to face what you might otherwise be subconsciously avoiding.
  • Give it a try this week as a first important step to breaking the habit of suppressing emotions. It may be odd at first, but it will become more natural over time as it becomes part of your routine.
  • To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444.
  • Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here!
  • Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)!

Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/minisode-monday-61-acknowledging-vs-suppressing-emotions/

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Fan Mail Friday #122 | Well Played, Sugar Nuts

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode:

  • As a "nice guy," how do you let go of an ex -- who attempted suicide when your relationship ended -- without feeling heartless?
  • Listener feedback for Nouveau Tech (from FMF 119) about how to respond next time the opportunistic entrepreneur ex makes contact.
  • Listener Sweet Cheeks weighs in on what she does when male coworkers dismiss her statements with infantilizing condescension.
  • Sometimes even gun-toting manly men need real talk from honest friends -- boundaries be damned!
  • When you're fresh out of college, don't be too quick to dismiss the experience you can get in your ideal field from working at a non-ideal place of employment.
  • Listener Westbound and Down tells us how he used Reddit to ask questions of locals prior to moving to a new town.
  • Is there a kind way to discourage stalker-like attention from a socially awkward person without crushing their ego?
  • Can you help people get through the ordeal of being bullied without disclosing specific details surrounding your own ordeal?
  • How does Jordan's advice in MM 57 to "treat everyone [we] meet as if [we're] going to know each other forever" apply if the person we're meeting happens to be a jerk right off the bat?
  • A documentary recommendation.
  • Quick shoutouts to the anon fan who gave Jordan some Bitcoin, and Nicholas and Amanda Bayerle of Billion Dollar Body!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
  • Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/fmf122/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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632: Chase Hughes | The Behavioral Table of the Elements

Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) teaches interrogation and behavior science on a tactical level for the US military, created The Behavioral Table of the Elements for behavior analysis in interrogations, and is the author of The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and Engineering of Human Behavior.

"Instead of trying to figure out what a person's good at, try to figure out what they want to be seen as being good at and you'll get ten times the results." -Chase Hughes

The Cheat Sheet:
  • What is the Behavioral Table of the Elements and how can we use it to determine the likelihood that someone is telling us the truth?
  • Why Chase considers polygraph tests "just about as accurate as a coin toss" -- and how they're actually biased against people who tell the truth.
  • What someone training to spot deception indicators and stress might learn from watching Conan O'Brien interviews.
  • How training ourselves to be subconsciously aware of truth signals clues us in when someone who's lying deviates from them.
  • How to hack authority for influence and personal development.
  • And so much more...

Full show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/632/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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631: Aaron Walker | View from the Top

Aaron Walker (@VFTCoach) has almost four decades of successful entrepreneurship under his belt; he rejoins us to talk about his new book, View From the Top: Living a Life of Significance.

"I'm always looking for a way to make it happen, not excuses why it won't work." -Aaron Walker

The Cheat Sheet:
  • Aaron grew up with nothing; discover what significant mindset shifts along the way changed his own results.
  • Understand why we should fear missing opportunity more than we should fear failure.
  • The importance of living proactively instead of reactively.
  • The value of participating in a mastermind group.
  • How a personal tragedy led to an entirely new way of thinking for Aaron.
  • And so much more...

Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/631/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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Minisode Monday #60 | Hacking Motivation with Value Languages

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away.

Vanessa Van Edwards (check out our full episode with her here) rejoins us to talk about value languages -- the motivations we have for entering into relationships with each other.

Let's get to it!

The Cheat Sheet:
  • Ever wondered how to hack motivation? It begins by understanding what people really want out of a relationship.
  • If you think about it, all relationships are transactions in which we give and take resources.
  • Value languages are what we hope to get out of a relationship; they can be any of the following:
    1. Information
    2. Goods
    3. Status
    4. Service
    5. Love
    6. Money
  • Vanessa gives us ways to practice how to recognize what value languages are being used in our own relationships so we can best address the motivations behind them.
  • This week, take a look at brags and complaints when you hear them and try to match them up with these different value languages.
  • If you liked this one, make sure to check out Vanessa's most recent appearance on The Art of Charm: Captivate (Episode 610)
  • To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444.
  • Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here!
  • Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)!

Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/minisode-monday-60-hacking-motivation-with-value-languages/

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Fan Mail Friday #121 | 21st Century Millennial Loneliness

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode:

  • Is the clock ticking on your window for big adventures? Consider mini-retirements.
  • How do you tell your conservative religious family that maybe you've decided to go a different way -- especially when being disowned is a possibility?
  • Is there a cure for 21st century millennial loneliness?
  • Is there a cognitive difference between listening to audiobooks and visual reading?
  • When you're growing good corn in this day and age, you've got more good neighbors than you may realize.
  • How do you deal with a coworker who acts like they have complete disdain for you?
  • Can you make your resting face more approachable?
  • If Jordan had to be a lawyer again, what would be his specialty?
  • A quick shoutout to Mo the Uber driver in Denver!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
  • Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/fmf121/

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630: AoC Toolbox | Becoming Friendly with Uncertainty

Uncertainty seems an unwelcome visitor, but what happens when we invite it in instead of trying to hide from it? Here's what we stand to gain by revisiting our relationship with uncertainty. [Photo by Brett Florence]

The Cheat Sheet:
  • The brain is wired to consume data. When it knows that there's more data out there, it throws itself into a cognitive panic -- we call this uncertainty.
  • Uncertainty isn't part of life; it is life.
  • Uncertainty isn't itself a problem -- it merely amplifies our current circumstances, good or bad.
  • Uncertainty isn't something we should try to overcome; it should be something we seek to befriend.
  • Learn to trust that uncertainty exists to serve us.
  • And so much more...

Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/630/

Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here!

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